“Set wildly ambitious goals, and you’ll get results beyond your wildest ambitions!” – lots of self help books
How many times have you heard that? If you’ve ever read a book on achievement or goals or life, you’ve probably heard it tiresome numbers of times.
So you went about setting your wildly ambitious goal — make $200,000/year, let’s say — and you read the affirmations — “I make $200,000/year!” — and yet there was a little voice inside your head that said “Wait a minute! No I don’t.” And pretty soon that big crazy goal seemed just plain stupid and maybe a little delusional, and definitely out of reach, and so you quit.
Wrong goal style, wrong results.
There’s nothing wrong with you. This doesn’t mean you’re “not a goal person” or “just not cut out for that kind of thing,” it just means that the person who wrote that inspirational book had different motivational style than you do.
Personally, I love impossible dreams. Impossible dreams motivate me and make me work harder, because I truly in my heart am an optimist and I believe anything is possible.
But if you’re a realist and you need a fairly realistic trajectory, I’m not going to try to convince you that the universe is infinite. You will still benefit from written goals.
Don’t get me wrong, I still do believe that the universe is infinite and we can achieve amazing things if we are sufficiently motivated, but you don’t have to believe that in order for goals to be an important and practical part of your life.
Here’s why: without written goals, life is just a big ol’ pile of to-do lists.
You may shuffle through them, crossing off tasks and getting stuff done, and meanwhile the things that you have in your heart — like riding a horse, or having a weekend with your best friend — don’t get done. It’s important to keep these bookmarked and present in your life.
I’ve been setting goals for years upon years, and I know it’s so important to have a well-rounded life. I think part of us knows that, and that part will sabotage any single-minded focus if we haven’t fully rounded out our goals.
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